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The Divorce Assets People Fight Over That Aren’t Worth the Battle

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Divorce brings out something strange in people. Couples who never cared much about certain possessions suddenly become willing to spend thousands in legal fees fighting over items worth a fraction of that cost. The emotional investment in “winning” clouds basic financial logic, and what should be simple property division turns into expensive, drawn-out battles over things that objectively don’t matter.

Understanding which assets aren’t worth fighting over can save massive amounts of money, time, and emotional energy during divorce proceedings.

Household Furniture and Everyday Items

The dining room table becomes a symbol of family meals that will never happen again. The couch represents years of shared life. The wedding china holds sentimental value. So couples fight over these items, racking up attorney fees that exceed the furniture’s actual worth by multiples.

Here’s the math that people ignore: spending $2,000 in legal fees to fight over a couch worth $500 makes no financial sense. Yet it happens constantly because people confuse emotional value with actual value. The furniture that seems irreplaceable can usually be replaced for less than it costs to fight over it in divorce proceedings.

Most household items depreciate dramatically. That $3,000 sectional purchased five years ago might fetch $600 on Craigslist. The bedroom set that seemed expensive when bought new has minimal resale value. Fighting over these depreciating assets burns money that could go toward actually rebuilding after divorce.

The smarter approach is splitting household items quickly and moving on. Take what matters most, let the other person have what matters to them, and replace the rest later. The replacement cost is almost always less than the legal fees fighting would generate.

The Family Home (Sometimes)

This one surprises people, but fighting to keep the marital home isn’t always the smart financial move. The emotional attachment to the house – where kids grew up, where memories were made – makes people fight to keep it when they really can’t afford it post-divorce.

Keeping the house often means taking on a mortgage payment that stretches the budget too thin. It means being responsible for all maintenance and repairs that previously split two ways. It means less money available for actually moving forward with life after divorce.

Sometimes selling the house and splitting the proceeds gives both people fresh starts with actual financial stability. Fighting to keep a house that becomes a financial burden isn’t winning – it’s setting up future problems. When consulting with experienced divorce attorneys, this is one area where objective advice about true affordability can prevent costly mistakes disguised as victories.

The calculation should be cold and practical: can the house actually be afforded on one income? Is the emotional value worth the financial strain? Often the answer is no, but people fight anyway.

Pets (From a Financial Perspective)

Pets are family members emotionally, but legally they’re property. People spend thousands fighting over custody of animals worth nothing in monetary terms. The legal fees for battling over who gets the dog can easily hit $5,000 or $10,000 for an animal that cost $500 to adopt.

This isn’t to say pets don’t matter – they absolutely do. But the financial reality is that legal battles over pets are purely emotional expenditures with no economic return. The money spent fighting could cover years of pet care, veterinary bills, or even adopting a new companion animal.

When possible, pet arrangements should be worked out through informal agreements rather than courtroom battles. Shared custody arrangements, visitation schedules, or accepting that one person keeps the pet while the other gets different concessions – these pragmatic solutions save the money that would otherwise just enrich attorneys.

Retirement Accounts With Small Balances

Retirement accounts require qualified domestic relations orders (QDROs) to divide properly. These documents cost money to prepare – typically $1,000 to $2,500. For accounts with small balances, the QDRO cost can eat up a significant chunk of what’s being divided.

Fighting over how to split a $10,000 retirement account when legal fees and QDRO costs might total $5,000 makes little financial sense. Sometimes the smarter move is one person keeping their retirement account while the other keeps theirs, even if balances aren’t perfectly equal, just to avoid the administrative costs of splitting them.

The exception is large retirement accounts or pensions with substantial value. Those are worth fighting over because the stakes justify the costs. But small accounts? The fighting costs more than what’s being divided.

Old Vehicles With Minimal Value

Couples battle over who gets the older car, the one worth maybe $3,000 if they’re lucky. They spend legal fees arguing about it, getting valuations, negotiating. By the time it’s settled, they could have just let it go and bought a different used car for less money.

Vehicles depreciate. Unless it’s a newer car with significant value, fighting over it usually costs more than the car is worth. Take the newer, more valuable car if there is one. Let the older vehicle go without a fight. Buy a different used car if needed. The math works out better than battling in court.

Collections and Hobby Items

Someone’s baseball card collection, vinyl records, or craft supplies might have sentimental value but often have little resale value. Yet couples fight over these items as if they’re valuable assets worth protecting. The reality is that specialty collections rarely sell for what people think they’re worth.

Unless dealing with genuinely valuable collections – authenticated memorabilia, rare items with documented worth – fighting over hobby materials wastes money. Let the person who actually cares about the collection keep it. They’ll value it more, and fighting over it just destroys value for everyone.

Photos and Digital Files

This one gets ugly fast. People fight over physical photographs, digital photo files, and even social media posts. They spend money on attorneys to argue about who owns which memories. But here’s the thing: digital files can be copied. Photos can be scanned and shared.

The cost of making copies or scanning physical photos is negligible compared to legal fees for fighting over them. Unless dealing with truly irreplaceable original art or historical documents, the smart move is making copies and moving on. Both people can have the memories without spending thousands arguing about who owns the originals.

Picking Battles Wisely

The pattern across all these items is the same: emotional value drives expensive fights over assets with minimal financial value. The cost of fighting exceeds the value of winning. This is where divorcing couples need to step back and think strategically rather than emotionally.

Every dollar spent on legal fees fighting over low-value items is a dollar not available for rebuilding after divorce. Every hour spent arguing about furniture or pets or photos is time not spent moving forward. The question shouldn’t be “do I want this item” but rather “is this worth what fighting for it will cost?”

Some things are worth fighting for – child custody, spousal support, major assets, fair distribution of significant property. But most of the items couples battle over? They’re not worth the cost, the time, or the emotional energy. Letting go of things that don’t truly matter financially is often the smartest financial decision in divorce.

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